Dating with a physical disability- How’s that going?

I’m a 34 year-old, single woman dating in Manhattan.  I’ve used a wheelchair since kindergarten.  Dating in Manhattan has been an experience which I can hardly wait to tell you all about so I created this blog with the hopes that we can really get into the nitty-gritty of our dating lives, or lack there of.   So, I will begin by sharing a recent experience… I just was told by an abled-bodied dude, after our third date and some mild making out, that he couldn’t handle my physical disability but wants to be friends and go out again because he thought I was “fun, sexy, smart, and funny.” Seriously, friends?!?  I guess I’m fun, sexy, smart, and funny but not enough to get past the fact that society taught him-it’s not cool to date a disabled girl.

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5 thoughts on “Dating with a physical disability- How’s that going?

  1. Hi my name is Donald Rollins
    I think if you ever come to chicago,IL. i would like to take you out and pick your brain, I realy like your looks and dateing a dissabled person just takes a certin type of person that cares more for others and has the copasity to be intimit with a fragile person, I am a real man and would enjoy dinner with you ,, PS .. I am a great cook,,, bye for now ,
    Sincerely,
    Donald Rollins

  2. Well that “able bodied dude” doesn’t have a very able mind.

    Being a bisexual woman, I find your mind to be the sexiest thing I’ve encountered in another human being in a long time. It makes the rest of you so alluring and desirable to me, and I haven’t even met you yet. I hope this isn’t offensive or weird to you. I just get so aggravated by people and the fact that they miss out on so much when they can’t get past what a lot of society trips on about outward appearances.

    What you are doing makes me inspired and motivated to also advocate for people with challenges and disabilities, and bring to light the facts that someone with a cane, or being in a wheelchair or amputees or other human so-called “imperfections” are just as beautiful and wonderful as anyone else. In fact, most of the time, those people have profound beauty and strength that only they can know or show. And that is lovely.

  3. I have exactly the same story like you…hehehehe…sad but it’s true so many ignorance people out there,

  4. It’s not about what society “taught him” or “coolness,” it’s the undeniable fact that a relationship with a disabled person brings many challenges & limitations, ones which few able-bodied people are willing to take on. Yes, there are lots of misconceptions out there about our lives, but ultimately, avoiding an intimate relationship with a disabled person is a rational & understandable decision. A sad fact for us, but true nevertheless.

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